This year Conor and I decided to start giving gifts as a couple and I’m not going to lie, I felt like it was a little bit of a challenge. I didn’t want to buy people just anything, like I have done so year after year in the past. I decided that I wanted to really work and think about each person individually and find or make them something a little more meaningful and not increase the amount of “material goods” everyone has.
It is no secret that when you work in an office tantalizing food and snacks just seem to be everywhere. Between lunch meetings, happy hour with coworkers, the candy jar and the home baked goodies that are brought in daily, it is so easy to throw your healthy plans for the day out quickly. You haven’t had goodies from that bakery before so you have to try them, just one piece of candy won’t hurt and no they won’t but when you’re snacking on these things daily and you’re taking them over other nutritious options, that may become a problem. How do you maintain a balance of staying fit and healthy but also allowing yourself to indulge guilt free? After struggling with this myself I’ve figured out the best ways to avoid snacking while at work.
The most common questions we receive are “where are you in the process,” “how many years are left” and “what’s next.” I remember when we first started this journey, we thought that the most difficult part was getting in, but I’ve come to realize that it’s not quite the case. Yes, we both knew medical school would be challenging and long but there was a lot more to it than we realized and keeping all the years and steps straight has been difficult. So to make it all a little less confusing, I’m outlining the basic medical school timeline. Each school and program are different, as well as if you’re in a DO program or an MD program.
Once June has passed it seems like the summer just flies by! Would you believe it if I told you there is only one full week left of July? Remembering last summer, I felt like we didn’t get nearly everything that we wanted to do, done. This summer has been incredible, we’ve done something every weekend and we still have so much more to do in the remaining time that we have. This summer though will be the last that we have to ourselves because next year right after Conor completes step 1 he’ll be heading straight out to clinical rotations. There will be no possibility of him taking any time off once rotations begin; no holidays, birthdays, vacations, just rotations. So it’s really important for us to make as many memories as we can this summer.
At this point in my life, we’re (my husband and I) have been attending many weddings and while this makes me happy for our friends, it makes me reflect on love and what that means. In the U.S. the divorce rate is high, I remember growing up I was told that 50% of marriages ended in divorce. I saw my friends parents break up and divorce and I always worried about my parents would do so (never happened). When I reflected on how I wanted my life to turn out, I wanted a constant in my life other than family so I decided I would do everything in my power to have a relationship and marriage that wouldn’t end in divorce. My husband and I have been together since we were children, I would say that we knew each other fairly well when we became engaged. As we were figuring out and preparing for marriage, we talked and talked a lot. We truly sat and listened to each other and asked each other really hard questions. We wrote answers down so we could better explain and articulate our feelings and so we felt more able to share our thoughts, we were committed to our thoughts and beliefs.
Going through the process of planning to get married we needed to have marriage counseling by the Chaplain who would marry us. We were super nervous about everything concerning it, letting a stranger in on our lives, sharing our plans for the future, sharing our fears and being truly honest to ourselves about our relationship. Despite our concerns, it was a blessing and we were so happy we went through with it. We were able to work through disagreements and celebrated in our shared hopes and goals for the future. After our meeting with the Chaplain, we actually went through a list together of over 100 questions that would allow us to have an even deeper conversation.
Congratulations Class of 2017! You stuck through it all and you made it across the stage! You have done it! You made it through four years of classes that seemed way too long, countless papers that were either too short or too long, countless all-nighters that may or may not have been avoidable and the ever so fun weeks of finals. You’ve grown, you’ve laughed, you’ve cried, and probably considered up and leaving school either mid paper or mid-studying for that midterm exam.
You stuck through it all and you made it across the stage! You have done it! You made it through four years of classes that seemed way too long, countless papers that were either too short or too long, countless all-nighters that may or may not have been avoidable and the ever so fun weeks of finals. You’ve grown, you’ve laughed, you’ve cried, and probably considered up and leaving school either mid paper or mid-studying for that midterm exam. Remember when you graduated high school and you felt like an adult finally, all that freedom you’d have in college? I absolutely remember that and then when I graduated college I absolutely felt it again but I also felt a little lost. In high school, your biggest decision was where you were going to school, now that you’ve gone through it all, what’s next? What do you do? Here are my few words of advice coming from a newly graduated master’s student.